Disease Free...

A lot of hookup sites have people who pitch themselves as disease-free.  According to this article, they may have to start proving it.  According to some clinical studies, people who were interested in the at home HIV tests, were interested in using them on would-be sex partners, as well as themselves.

I can imagine the shock if someone got a partner home & said OK I'll need about 30 minutes for you to take the test & the results to show.   Getting ready to hop into bed with someone is not the place you want to find out that you're +.   I get wanting to use every available means to be safe, but this is dubious.  

Any test can screw up.  What if the person you brought home does turn out to be +?  What if you do turn out to be + & your would be tryst partner is a blabber mouth?   So, if the test says the person is negative will you still use a condom?  Or will you risk the possibility the test was wrong or the person has another STD?

I don't support at-home testing for reasons I've already detailed in this blog.  I really detest the idea of would be F-buddies suddenly becoming lab techs.  This is just inappropriate.  I'm sure a lot of people will see it as being just fine & a literal godsend, but I see as a potential disaster in the making.    I haven't supported OraQuick for personal use & I won't support it for this.

Cya...

Ridiculous...

This article brings up an old question, "Are you clean?"   

"You sir, are you clean?"

"Why, yes, I just took a shower."

Yeah, I know, they're asking about whether or not I have any type of cooties; HIV. HEP-C, herpes...  I'm not even sure if they're worried about herpes anymore.  It's a demonstration in futility & ignorance.  

"Why of course I'm clean."  

Did the person even understand what you were really asking?  Does he/she even know their HIV status?  Are they lying?   What are you going to if they say no?  Worse yet, what are you going to do if the tell you  they are clean?

This question is dangerous & insulting.   I am +, but I am clean.  I'm not some nasty little thing that should hide under a rock, just because of my HIV status.  This question has led to a lot of people getting infected & they think they did all they could.  What about using a condom?  What about not believing everything you're told?  What about being realistic in regards to STD's?

Enough with the awful question.  Either play as safe as you can or don't play at all.

Cya...

Black Or White...

I'm a pretty avid believer in the shades of grey in almost in any situation.  However, sometimes you either or you're not, it's on or off, right or left or you are are not pregnant.  It seems these are the places where people most like to debate.


POZ  just covered a study by Oregon State University, Monogamy.  "40 percent of heterosexual couples ages 18 to 25 who discussed monogamy, one partner said the couple agreed to be sexually exclusive while the other partner said there was no such agreement."  Either you had an agreement or you didn't or someone is just lying or being delusional about the relationship.  


The study, "Also found that among couples in which both partners agreed to monogamy, nearly 30 percent had sex with at least one partner outside of the relationship."   One out of three people can't commit to a monogamous relationship or just can't grasp the concept.


Monogamy  is not a difficult concept to understand.  So what's going on here; empty promises, assumptions or the end of an archaic concept?  I'm not trying to say you should or should not be monogamous.  I don't really care that much about your sex life.  What I am saying is that with this info out there, it is beyond time to wake up & smell the proverbial coffee.


If you are having sex with ANYONE , then you need to use a condom.  Even Cookie can do it

Don't give me that, but I trust him/her BS.  How is that going to help you when you get your HIV test back & it is +?  There is no such thing as safe sex, only safer.  Your choices are try to play safe or don't be surprised when you get your...

At least red pretty much goes with anything.