Op or News...

Articles are moving becoming scarce again.  Rehash & opinion remains abundant.    I wish people would learn the difference between actual news & just opinion/editorial.  I'm interested in real, factual incidents/actions, not someone's reaction to events or opinion about how things are or should be.

I'm sure your opinion is great & all, but I could mostly care less.  I'm here for the news, not the YOU show.  It'd be nice if those running news shows or putting articles in feeds would learn the difference.  

Enough of that.  It looks to be another nice day here.  YAY!  That's about all for now. Take care.

Cya...

Opinions...

I write a  blog.  I express my opinions & perspectives.  I don't try to inflict my opinions on others.  I expect those that don't agree with me, simply not to read my blog.  It's that simple.

But, it's not.

Everyday, in every matter, from politics to medicine to entertainment, people are inflicting their beliefs on others with a zeal that should be reserved fantasy, whirling dervishes.  They carry their version of reality like a bomb to drop on everyone in their path.   They have the only valid opinion, the only REAL truth.

They use this to affect elections, medical advancements, even how well movies do at the theatre.  They are ideology monsters.  They should avoided if possible.  There is no winning with these beasts.  Don't even try.  So far, it's illegal to shoot them.  

Everyday I read about things that will impact my life being altered & affected by others who have no real connection to me or the things I need.  But they have their feels, opinions & TRUTHS.  

If you have an opinion on a matter, that's great.  But that's all it is, an opinion.  Just because you believe something, doesn't make it a fact.  Just because feel morally superior doesn't give you the right to bother others.  These people just use their "beliefs" as an excuse to bully, molest & harm others.

Again avoid whenever possible.

Cya...

You Don't Get An Opinion...

There some things in this life you don't get an opinion about. You may have your thoughts on the matter, but it's unlikely those concerned will be interested in them  Is that rude?  No, it's not.  Too many people think they get to have a say on matters that don't concern them & most likely, they don't comprehend.

There are things in this life I have  no real opinion about:

• Whether or not to have an abortion
• How to react to a violent sexual assault
• Whether or not to kill in a war situation

I have ideas about these things, but not opinions.  I will never have an abortion, I'm male.  I, thankfully, have never been assaulted in that manner.  I've never been in a military situation such as that.  I can have my thoughts, but not opinions.  I have nothing to base those opinions on,  Even if I did, have a basis, it would merely be an extension of my own experiences & may not relate to any one else's situation.

There are things I've gone through that unless you have I have no use for your "opinion".  I know what it's like to:

• Be diagnosed HIV +
• Have a chronic illness
• Be on disability
• Be a child of chronic, violent alcoholics
• Be an abandoned child
• Be tossed from home to home
• Have earned a useless Ph.D.
• Live in a rural area
• Be the odd 1
• To be alone

I could go on, but I've made my point. If you haven't experienced these things, then I'm not really interested in your input.  If you want to know something about these things, then ask.  But, I can only tell you of my experiences. 

People get judged daily by others on matters those doing the judging will never comprehend.  Funny how many of those judges spout proverbs about not judging.   In the long run, unless asked, most people really don't care about your opinions.  So, why not just let them be?

Cya...

OT & Errands...

I have some more errands. This is off topic but applicable.  While growing up, we get used to things & develop preferences.  Sometimes those change as you age, sometimes they don't.

I'm not quite as sold on the childhood theory that more ketchup & cheese can make anything better as I was when I was a kid.  I still like cheese & ketchup, but they're no longer my food saviors.   I used to love the idea of supreme pizzas, the everything potato chips or the works burgers.    Now, I usually prefer simpler, more straight forward fare.

However, I still prefer boxed macaroni & canned biscuits.  I'm sure there are  others but those are the 2 of mine that get challenged most often.  I don't like homemade mac & cheese or biscuits.  Which BTW, taste eerily similar.   Someone just slapped gloppy cheese on the elbow macaroni.  

I know a lot of people who prefer the homemade versions,   That's just freaking, awesome for them.  They can eat all of that stuff they want, just leave my canned biscuits & blue box of mac alone.   But, they don't.  They feel they're right & they have to push their opinions on us uneducated, uncultured slobs who prefer Kraft Mac & Cheese.

This is a stupid clash over taste & isn't worth your time.  I can be rather cattish sometimes.  Leave me alone & I'll leave your face on your head.   Sometimes other people seem to feel they have the right to tell you how to live, what to eat, who to date... Unless, its hurting you or someone else, just do it & to hell with the naysayers.  

These things aren't worth fighting over. If these people will be rude to you over something so small as mac & cheese, what are they going to be like over the big stuff?  Totally unbearable. 

This is my life.  I like the blue box of mac & Grands biscuits.  I am chronically ill & didn't ask for your opinion on the virtues of the  homemade  versions.  I have limited energy & I'm seriously low F'cks to give.  I simply refuse to spend either on someone who thinks they're better than me & their food snobbery.  The same goes for the rest of my life as well.    If you want me to listen to your opinions on my life, then start paying my bills.  If not, shut up.

Cya...

Opinionated...

Not going to be a long post today, just something to bounce an idea off the reader.  My roomie brought the idea that some people are just too opinionated. By that she meant that when someone makes a statement that we are not obligated to stick in our two ¢ on the matter.

The example she used that when a person comes up & informs another that their child has just died in the war, this person wasn't inquiring the second for an opinion.  Neither was it an appropriate place for the second person to interject their beliefs.  This was a time for support, compassion & if the second couldn't muster anything else, silence.

Communication is more than talking & hearing.  It is about genuinely trying to get a point across. Talking is not the same as speaking.  Some people gab all day & in the end say very little, so they just rambled on without communicating.  Others nod their heads & say that they heard you, but they didn't really listen.  They didn't take the time to comprehend what was being said.  

In a world where communication has become more & more indirect & impersonal truly conversing is often difficult.  Texting is not the same as communicating. Neither are one line blips on Facebook or Twitter.  Simply expressing your opinion without really listening to what was being said in the first place isn't communicating.  Constantly expressing your side of things is unyielding & rude.

Are giving your opinion to often?  Can you hold back your 2 ¢?  Or do you feel obligated to spit out your unrequested opinion?