Most get the, "Drank the kool-aid," reference. But the sugary drink comes in many varieties. Each filled with sweetened insanity.
I read an advice column about a woman whose son had only been out a few years. Some people need time to wrap their heads around their kid being gay. Recently, said child zoomed her & introduced his boyfriend & within the frame of a short video chat, he told his mother the boyfriend was HIV+.
Of course she had questions & concerns. When she voiced anything but utter approval, her son got angry, accusatory & threatened to never speak to her again. She wrote a columnist to see if she was in the wrong. Instead taking this is a chance to further gay-straight relations, the columnist sided with her son. He was rude, accusing the woman of being homophobic, anti poz people & deserving of being abandoned.
Why would anyone bring up private health concerns during a video chat serving as an introduction? IMO, the son was itching for a fight. Side with me 100% or I'll denounce you as a horrible person.
I wasn't on this call, so I can't say if it's all accurate. The woman could've been misrepresenting the situation. But, the columnist should've handled this much better than he did.
This kool-aid drinking isn't limited to Gays. Many groups today or into the, "You're either with us or against us," mentality; political groups, religions, transgender groups, vegans, etc... Once someone belittles, demeans, screams at you over something like this, the topic was never the problem. These people just want a hill to die on. They're tilting at windmills. Best to get out of their way & hope they run off a cliff in their "holy" pursuit.
You can't confront their feelings with facts or even your own feelings. These people want a fight. They want to feel part of a virtuous movement, a sacred quest. In reality, they're just balls of indignant, malaligned anger looking to explode. Better to practice avoidance when possible & hope they flame out.
Cya...
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