It can't decide whether it's hella hot Summer or massively, muggy Fall. Neither are great choices, but I'd go with the less humid option. I don't do well with seasonal changes, but it's worse when the seasons refuse to change.
I see articles that tell people they're not they're disease (HIV). While technically accurate, it doesn't feel like. Between how the virus can make you feel & having to stick to a regimen, it's hard not to think about being HIV+. I imagine anyone with a chronic illness feels the same.
Even if you can get passed seeing yourself as just your illness, many won't. Well meaning friends & family will ask about it. Reminding you again, yes you are HIV+. Less kind people will do so as a way of keeping you in your place. Many people; doctors, pharmacists, lab techs, sale people, etc... will only relate to you on the basis of you being +. Feeling that you're more than your illness, is no easy feat.
There a lot of things that have defined my life more than having the virus. But being HIV+, is definitely up there on the list. I've been + for more than a third of my life. That's longer than I was with my family, was in school, most everything I've been part was for less time than that. Of course, being + is a huge part of my identity.
You may not be your illness, but like it or not, it's a big part of you. This is a place for recognition & acceptance. Not to wallow, but to adjust & move on with your life as it is now. There really is no other healthy option.
Cya...
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