My roomie & I can sorta synch up on some things, take her blog entry. It was about something we discuss often. Because of the unconventional parenting style (read drunk, useless & absent) employed by our parents we don't see the world the same way others do. Sometimes I'm not even sure we're on the same planet.
I've talked about having to be self-taught in many aspects of my life, my roomie is not different in that regard. Learning how to deal with the day to day stuff like shaving, shopping & paying bills on time is trying & sometimes embarassing, but the other less tangible things like holidays can be down right painful.
How do you celebrate Christmas when you have no family? What do you do for Halloween when you're a "grown-up"? What do the single people do for Valentines? The simple answer is you...
That's right, you have two options to set there & be miserable that the conventionality isn't working for you or you can make whatever it is work for you. At Christmas my roomie & me watch all the Christmas specials & snark about them or talk about what they remind of us. We listen to novelty Christmas music like A Very Scary Solstice, Lovecraftian inspired seasonal songs or Rupaul's Christmas album.
Thanksgiving is probably the realest holiday for us lately. We've really tried to learn to be thankful for what we have, even when it isn't much. Halloween is for scary movies, the Great Pumpkin & massive amounts of candy. Easter is another candy day. St. Patrick's is a day to eat cabbage. We're really not that into Memorial Day & we watch the city fireworks from the porch on the Fourth of July. Then Labor is a nada day again, after that we're back to Halloween.
Holidays can be sad, depressing, overwhelming, even isolating bitchy days if you let them. So do your best not to let them. If you've lost old traditions, adapt them or make new ones. I'm not trying to make this sound easy, cause it isn't. Talk to people around you, keep your eyes open. I'm willing to bet you'll find someone in the exact same boat as you. Maybe together you can make the holiday something special for each other. It may not last, it may change, but that's alright. Just be grateful & celebratory in the moment & keep the memories as dear presents of the past.
Enough of this sappiness.
Happy Whatever Holiday Is Coming Next For You,
May the holiday spirit move you...
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